The Black Girl Chronicles

 The Age of Aquarius - Self-actualisation The gregorian calendar new year has began, it is January and most have promised themselves a new beginning. From my observation most people are beginning the journey of self-love and self acceptance. I have been going through this journey from 2022, and honestly it is quite difficult to execute in interpersonal relations. In theory I know self-love is cultivating a sense of authenticity within your environment, practicing healthy boundaries and choosing the right decisions for self even against societal standards. In practicality it is very difficult to practice self-love. When you are honest about your feelings, it agitates other people. For example, I told my partner that I hate his mother because of the physical and verbal abuse she inflicted on me, I guess it was insensitive to say that to him because after all I am showing disdain for the person who gave birth to him, in my defense he asked for honesty, and it was too hard for him to h...

 Sex is passion and should not be shamed due to religious ideologies We all reach an age when we are ready to experience the pleasures of sexual intercourse, but most of us grew up in religious homes that encouraged or enforced virginity (if female) and celibacy (if male). These constraints due to patriarchal norms are less strict on males and give them the free pass to "act as they wish" without shame, unlike with females who would be shamed or even shunned by their families or communities. I cannot even mention the traumatic sexual experiences females go through that either makes them hypersexual or afraid of engaging in intimacy or intercourse. I am not disregarding that males experience sexual trauma but statistically females are more prone to experience the sexual assault and harassment, leading to trauma response behaviours and habits. Commonly many perpetrators are people the victims are familiar with like close family or supposed friends which may create the cycle to ...

 Our Parents Need Therapy The generational trauma keeps recycling, Millenials and Gen Z are not going to tolerate the bullshit, we are not going to allow the emotional, mental, environmental and economic abuse that our parents and 'grandparents suffered through. No, we are not! Many of us are seeking therapy, some not because of being in physically abusive households but our parents parenting styles are/were not as nurturing they were either authoritarian or uninvolved, let's acknowledge the truth. Some might have not been corporally punished but were not given the attention we needed as children, that is emotional neglect. What our parents kept saying was "I cloth you, buy you stuff you want, feed you and put a roof over your head - what more do you need, why are you such a problem child ( if your behaviour didn't please them or other adults around your vicinity)? Honestly that is not all that children need, those are the physical necessities they need. There is more,...